When Mom or Dad Goes to
children of soldiers cope? A special presentation from CFB
Petawawa, near Ottawa.
Join us online at
Tuesday November 11 at 9:00 PM ET
- What is it like to lose a spouse in combat?
- How do children feel when a parent goes to war?
- How does deployment affect a child's learning?
- What happens when a soldier returns home?
When Charmaine Tedford's cell phone rang - she knew.
Something had gone wrong. And it was serious. Soon she was
heading back to the house to tell her children that their
father, Sgt. Darcy Tedford, had been shot in Afghanistan.
She wrote this piece to explain what it felt like from the
This photograph of Charmaine and her
was the last photo they had taken together.
or Dad Go To War was filmed at CFB Petawawa. It's going live
to the internet net on Remembrance Day at 9 p.m. ET and then
will air on TVO the following Sunday at 6 p.m.
The internet show is viewable anywhere in the world.
Viewers can go to
to watch on Tuesday or afterward in archives. We’re hoping
you can help get the word out to people to watch the show.
A Veteran - whether active
duty, retired or reserve - is someone who at one
point in his life, wrote a blank check made
payable to 'The Country of Canada', for an
amount of 'up to and including my life.'
happens when a parent goes to war?
Our soldiers aren't just
peacekeepers anymore. They've been fighting a war in
Afghanistan. And they've been dying. The levels of
stress on the kids they leave behind are going through
the roof as the death toll rises. It's been called a
mental health crisis. Have you ever thought about it -
the pressure on these families? Have you ever wondered
how you'd cope?
Next Tuesday on Remembrance Day -
think about the kids left behind as their parents go to
the front lines. Come here to tvoparents.com and listen
to three parents directly affected by the war in
Afghanistan, even though they live 10,000 kilometres
away, at CFB Petawawa, just north of Ottawa.
And let us know what you think
While we were shooting our special
for Remembrance Day up at CFB Petawawa, one of the
mental health clinicians told me something that shocked
10 years ago, the average age of a veteran of
the Canadian military was 72 years old.
Now it's 39.
That changes everything for veterans - and has huge
implications for the help they need to re-integrate into
If you've been affected by this new trend - tell us
how...and share how you've gotten through it...and is
there enough services out there?
former military spouse and mother of two teenagers, Michelle
has an extensive knowledge of the strengths and challenges
facing today’s military families. Michelle has spent the
majority of the past 26 years living and working within a
military community and has personally experienced the impact
of deployments on children and the family. Her work within
the field of social services includes experience as an
emergency support worker to military families living in
Europe, as an Early Childhood Educator in a variety of
licensed childcare settings, as a Community College
Educator, and more recently as a children's mental health
counselor. She is currently employed at the Petawawa
Military Family Resource Centre as the Coordinator of the
Children’s Deployment Support Program. Her work in
supporting children and families who have a member deployed
involves the development and facilitation of peer support
groups, resource support and outreach to children and their
families, resource support to educators and school support
staff, and the provision of critical incident response
Veletia is a teacher at Pinecrest Public School. She's been
at the school right on the CFB Petawawa base for 13 years.
Last year her own husband was deployed to Afghanistan for 7
months. She and her two girls learned the lessons of
separation and anxiety that deployment means. And she was
able to relate to all her students who go through the same
is the mother of two girls, 7 & 9. Her husband, Sgt. Darcy
Tedford was deployed to Afghanistan in the fall of 2006. Ten
days after returning from leave, Sgt. Tedford was killed by
a rocket-propelled grenade in a surprise attack outside of
Kandahar. She has learned how to cope by leaning on the
other six widows who came together that winter for support.